We all have some type of boundary when it comes to others.  At what point do we stand up?

I know when someone is attacking my child the mother bear comes out. I try to be open minded because children do not tell the whole truth, or they just tell their own side.  I also have tried to teach my children to stand up for themselves and create boundaries with others. But, when needed I am the voice that resounds to protect my children.

Why is it that I don’t always protect myself and put those firm boundaries in place? I allow certain people to walk all over me.  My tolerance is great then it use to be.  When and where do we draw a line?

Here are my trigger points:

A) my religious preferences

B) don’t put your hands on me in a violent manner

C) unwillingness to change behavior but continue to ask for advice

D) talking crap about someone I care about

Believe me when I say I have put up with a lot and I have pretty tough skin.  I don’t get offended over most things.  I’m not a snowflake. I can take a joke and I feel that I allow more than most without just throwing a fit.  If I dish it out, I will take it back.

I see myself as I hope others see me.  Mostly cooler headed than my junior years.  I stress enough not to have to worry about my boundaries with others.  BUT, wait a minute, did I not just take my supervisor talking to me as if I were a child? Yes, I did. Why did I not create a boundary right then and there.  I hope in some way I did, when she made a statement that I thought I have “power.”  I lashed back at that point, stating she is the one will all of the POWER.  She uses it to intimidate others, to put fear into them where they may feel like children and obey her. Yes, I said it!! Maybe it will sink in since this is a common M.O. for her with her subordinates. I hope that she does not speak to me again that way or there will be repercussions.

I will put my foot down an not allow people to treat me badly just because. My life at times feels out of control and setting up a boundary is one of the ways I feel like I can find solace.

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Words of wisdom from Cpt. Woodrow Call ” I hate rude behavior in a man, I won’t tolerate it.”